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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Make sure you teach consent[/quote]

Absolutely, this is essential. Clear consent, not "assumed consent" or "implied consent".[/quote]

So does this mean he is supposed to ask her if he may kiss her? Get her explicit permission for a kiss? [/quote]

Yes.  Here are the basic guidelines:

Top things to know about consent:

-Consent is given with enthusiasm

-You can withdraw consent at any time

-The best way to know you have someone’s consent is to ask them

Even if you’ve heard of sexual consent, you might be unsure of how to give it or ask for it. Whether you’re down to kiss, touch, or to simply just sext, we’re here to help! For the purposes of this article, we’ll be using the terms sex and sexual activity to refer to the whole range of sexual intimacies that require consent, including (but not limited to) phone sex, kissing, dry humping, genital rubbing, oral sex, vaginal sex, and anal sex.

1. What is sexual consent?
The legal definition of sexual consent changes based on where you are located, but the principle is always the same. Sexual consent is an agreement between people to have sex or to engage in a sexual activity together. You have the right to choose what you do, with whom, and how—giving your full consent requires the communication of your expectations, boundaries, and desires to your sexual partner(s), as well as their understanding and acknowledgement of these preferences.

Sexual consent should be:

Enthusiastic: You want to have sex or engage in a sexual activity with a partner. 
Mutual: Your partner also wants to have sex or engage in sexual activity with you. 
Voluntary: You have decided to have sex or engage in a sexual activity without external pressure, expectation, or guilt. You understand what’s going on and are not incapacitated by alcohol or drugs.
Informed: You understand the terms and boundaries of having sex or engaging in a sexual activity. If at any time, the terms of the situation change (say, if your partner removes their condom during sex without telling you) then your original consent becomes invalid.
Ongoing: There is no such thing as blanket consent, even if you have had sex or have engaged in sexual activity with a partner, before. Saying yes to one sexual activity doesn’t mean you agree to do it again in the future, or that you consent to other sexual activities. Consent is needed each time for each specific activity.[/quote]

Print this and have your kid read it before their first kiss, have partner read it and both of them sign. [/quote]

Oh good god!   :roll: [/quote]

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