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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If it's in a work setting, chances are his reputation is out there and ppl know this about him. You have to keep it professional and [b]when necessary, correct his misstatement with facts without any emotions attached. [/b]

If it's a personal relationship, distance yourself.

Basically, don't rise to his level and don't take the bait. [/quote]

Ok, the bolded is specifically what I'm struggling with. In his message, he severely mischaracterized several things I've done. For instance saying that I "yelled" at him in a conversation where I definitely didn't yell or even raise my voice (in fact I didn't even view the interaction in question as a conflict). He also called me several names and described my personality in an aggressively negative way that I don't think reflects even my worst qualities.

Do I correct the record on these points? Is it worthwhile? I do think he is coming off as unhinged to other people (there were several others on this email) but I also worry that if I don't say anything it looks like I am accepting his statements as true even though they are clearly not.

My inclination is to say nothing but I wonder if my silence is communicating something I don't want it to.[/quote]

This book should help. Excellent strategies I have used with similar people. This way, you don't feel like you are being walked all over.

https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/133203.The_Gentle_Art_of_Verbal_Self_Defense[/quote]

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