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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]There are boarding schools available depending on your child's needs.

In the meantime, all day preschool and if necessary a nanny in the evenings and weekends.

Consider taking a break from therapy for a month or two or taking a break from one of the therapies and concentrating all efforts on the other. Sometimes making a gain in one area helps everything look more positive.

Realize that even with NT kids the 3-5 age range is difficult.

Meds for anxiety and depression for you. They won't make the situation better per se but they might make it easier to cope and they can have a numbing effect which can help you get through the days.[/quote]

Really good advice here OP. Don't try to keep on as you are. Take a break and use some of that $ and time to invest in you and DH or you and your other child. I may be off but is seems like you expected life to go on as it was before after you had invested a lot of time and $ in therapies. Sadly, it doesn't work like that. Replenish yourself and your other family relationships and when you are able to think a bit more objectively I think you will be able to see your way to a more healthy and balanced new normal. You sound totally overwhelmed and drained. If things like socializing with others is important to you (and to me isolation is very difficult), don't pretend like going with DD is likely to work if it doesn't. Get a sitter. You can't put you last and not be realistic and blame her. She is a sn child but also a toddler. You need to make it workable. Invest in yourself, take some time away, sign up for weekly yoga, take a long weekend with DH, whatever it takes. Then come back with the understanding that this is a big challenge, but that your DD needs to feel your love and acceptance even more than most kids. I made the same mistake of putting myself last and then pretending that if I tried hard enough things would be different. You have an intact marriage and money for therapies and help. You are actually very lucky. Be strategic and build from here. Your NT child has the gift of learning compassion for DD but first it has to be modeled by you. Where is your spouse on all this? Do you get the vibe that you are supposed to "fix" or "manage" DD so that she appears NT? Is your spouse also someone who describes themselves as "selfish"? If so, make sure that you have support and good role models from other SN parents and from therapists. It will be harder for DD to have friends, she needs her family more than most kids. Do you work? If not, that might be another thing to consider as a way to get you some life of your own.[/quote]

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