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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would work on naming her emotions, it will give her the emotional vocabulary and make her feel heard by you. Can you look up home based therapeutic play therapy, maybe some one on one dedicated play therapy techniques would help her feel more in control.  [b]That she is like this with you means you’re her safe person where she can let it out.[/b] [/quote]

OP this is accurate.  My DD was like this, she is now at college and thriving.  She was a VERY easy baby, I was into baby wearing and attachment this and that, popular back then.  She walked early, talked early, does well in school, but everything (and I mean every. last. effing. thing.) was a struggle, daily.  Not one of my friends went through what we did. Not one. Never mind the holier than thous who strive to make it look like they are parents of the year, along the way - those you can disregard and/or discard.

My two cents is that she does indeed feel safe with you. Do what you can. I know you are exhausted, because all these years later, I remember it well.  I do not think "whatever it is" is common.  Perhaps it is a personality thing, I am not entirely sure, but I am going with that. Another sibling was an IMPOSSIBLE baby and super easy kid, so there is likely something to that, FWIW.

DH empathized and made them "feel heard" more than our other kids, and thought this is what they needed. Not sure if that helps, as I know you are already exhausted.

One example I have for you: we did mommy and me (or whatever they are called in toddlerhood and just after) type classes often, same as I did with our other kids.  She would fight me to the ends of the earth to NOT go (basically, this was true of any destination, be it one hour or one day). Once we arrived at the destination, she was absolutely fine and had "the best day ever!", and THEN refused to go home! Go figure. I am trying to recall if they ever grew out of it entirely, I do know there was some door slamming during preteen years, and they chilled out after those years, thankfully. Good friends help, both for her and for me, I found.  I do think there is some anxiety, which remained.

One thing we did is this, we ended up finding a specially trained female therapist in Falls Church, VA, but the name escapes me. HTH: https://pepparent.org/ . We also tried 1,2,3 Magic (found on Amazon).

Wishing you peace, it is EXTREMELY difficult. [/quote]

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