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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is the OP, oh my God you all are projecting and you have absolutely no idea what is going on in my house. I *do* parent my children and I do talk to my children about healthy eating, I talk about the importance of protein and a varied diet, about “empty calories” and stress eating etc. I encourage exercise and model it through my own behavior. Once I have done all that though, I shut up!

What I don’t do is make constant little sniping judgmental/shaming comments about food as my teen is eating! You are not here to hear my husband but I can guarantee to you that it is not helpful. What it’s doing is creating a sense in my kid that he has to hide his eating and/or that he is bad for what he eats. My spouse is creating a world where there’s good versus bad food. It’s so messed up and I cannot make him stop!

Teenagers famously have huge appetites. My teen is still growing and may grow inches! The fact that he is slightly overweight now does not mean that is how he will be forever, this may be just a stage!

I think it’s interesting that some of you all assumed that my teen was a girl.

Look, everyone can enjoy their feelings of superiority and think that they are doing things correctly if their kids are not overweight, but I have one overweight kid and one normal weight/skinny kid in this house so it’s not as if I am incapable of raising a healthy-weight kid! I’m also not overweight!

Thank you to those who have actually tried to be helpful but what I really, really want is some kind of science-based expert who can talk to me and my husband and get us both on the same page about how to handle this. Off the cuff advice is not helpful although it may make you feel good! It actually reminds me very much of the comments my husband makes which may do some thing for him but are not actually helping the situation.

Does anyone have any names of counseling centers, names of dietitians or therapists, good books to suggest?[/quote]

What happens if you call your husband out on it? My obese husband will sometimes do this to my healthy weight, still growing teen boy. He'll remark on how much he snacks. I call him out and tell him he's the biggest snacker/eater in the family so he shouldn't talk. That shuts him up real quick because he knows it's true. I serve healthy meals, avoid having junk food in the house, encourage exercise, etc. My husband insists on going to the grocery store every week to stock up on all his junk. It's beyond frustrating that he doesn't care enough about his health or his family to care about what he eats, but I can't do anything about it. He's an adult.[/quote]

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