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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why does my mother got out of her way to help random people in her life, yet can’t be bothered with me or my children, while simultaneously contradicting her behavior by telling us how much she misses us and wants to see us?

My mom will call and say she misses me/us and ask to make plans. Then, either one of two things will happen. She will either A.) Make the plan, then cancel last minute because she has to help someone, and it’s always a random person (I’ll expand below), or, B.) Will just tell me why X or Y day won’t work, because she has to help some random person. But then she will continue calling to tell me how much she misses us and hasn’t seen us in forever.

The random people/things: She has agreed to drive her random aerobics class friend to the grocery store. Or, she needs to help the daughter of an old friend who only very recently came back into her life, do something. Things like that. I’m just curious why she can never break THOSE plans and say to the random aerobics friend, no, I can’t drive you, I have plans with my grandchild.

Basically, why are these random people more important to my mother? [/quote]

[b]Narcissism. [/b] Unforunately, your mom wants to be seen aa a good guy only to make her feel better.   My mom is one too and she has attachment issues.    Don't expect her to change and it might gwt worse as she ages [/quote]

This.  MIL is like this.  Appearances to outsiders are more important than doing the right thing, for/in her own family. [/quote]

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