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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Her executive function is going, OP. She literally cannot do most of what you’re asking, and when she starts thinking about it, it’s overwhelming and she stops. Not just emotionally, but in terms of basic execution: she sits down to look at a form. The pencil is upstairs. She gets it. Sits back down. Then she realizes she needs to find old paperwork to fill out this form (bank, tax, etc). She’s already braved the stairs once, and she can’t remember where the old paperwork is. So she thinks: “I’ll do it tomorrow”. [/quote] This is so true. My husband was so angry at his parents for the mess they left us, but reframing the situation this way is crucial. They did not screw us over on purpose. They literally could not handle complex planning because of their mental state. All this planning is honestly challenging for me at my age and executive functioning, and I'm a lot younger. [/quote]
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