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[quote=Anonymous]Her executive function is going, OP.
She literally cannot do most of what you’re asking, and when she starts thinking about it, it’s overwhelming and she stops. Not just emotionally, but in terms of basic execution: she sits down to look at a form. The pencil is upstairs. She gets it. Sits back down. Then she realizes she needs to find old paperwork to fill out this form (bank, tax, etc). She’s already braved the stairs once, and she can’t remember where the old paperwork is.

So she thinks: “I’ll do it tomorrow”.

You’re not helping.

You have to take several long weekends, live in her house, fill out everything for her, explain like she’s 7, and she signs. It depends how stubborn she is, and how persuasive you are and how you can physically help her remember where she put her info.

So first you have to prepare your spiel, the right papers, and maybe consult a lawyer. You present 2-3 viable options to your mother, she picks and signs. Hopefully!

I know it’s a slog. My erstwhile highly-organized father is regressing and I will have to do something similar.

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