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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You cannot keep your mother from returning to the home SHE OWNS. This isn’t your house.[/quote]

In terms of getting her into a nursing home, Medicaid would require a spend down of all of her assets (including the house) before it would cover anything.  I don't see how - in clear conscience - you can keep the house and send her to a sub par nursing home.

The PP above is right - hire helpers for when you are out of the house and put an alarm on her bed.  That is the kindest thing to do at this point.

[b]Also, contemplate the values of freedom versus safety.  She would probably rather have a modicum of freedom than live a "safe" low quality life at a nursing home.  [/b][/quote]

This is a really important perspective, With aging parents we tend to really focus on that physical safety but your parent may prefer to live a shorter life at home, dying from a fall vs. wasting away at a nursing home. I'd focus on finding good daytime help to start with.[/quote]

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