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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op here. Not interested in posting every detail of my child’s diagnoses, marriage, etc.

Can anyone talk about quitting their job because you did not feel it was possible to work while having a kid with SN? Was there a time period or age when it felt more manageable? Did you try, for example, taking 2-3 years off and did it move the needle? Did going back feel manageable after taking a break?[/quote]

For me, it was the second SN child that pushed us over the edge. It was after they were hospitalized for the third time in an 8 month period. Our finances were different though. DH made 50% more than me and we started out our marriage by saving my entire take home salary and 15% of his, so the financial transition was minimal plus we had saved an excellent nest egg and we are both naturally tightwads. DH and I have mostly been on the same page for our children’s therapies and treatments.

Our older has ASD and our younger has multiple severe LDs and other issues. Both were identified as 2E when that became a thing - which actually complicated things.    Frankly, it has been a much easier ride with the ASD child.  It is a long slow slog raising children with SN.  You need to pace yourself.  You cannot try to fix everything at once. You need to triage and work on one or two things at a time.

It’s hard to go back once you quit.  Of my friendship circle, I would say less than half went back to work even though all of us intended when we initially quit. [/quote]

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