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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m still sympathetic to OP. All you critics have no idea how little medical support the mentally ill get. It’s horrifying. Story after story in the news of criminal acts by the mentally ill neglect the multiple calls and requests for help made by family members. It’s a human disaster.

Disabled children are coddled with Medicaid benefits galore. Then you can sign up for government waivers to cover a lifetime of services. You do know serious mental illness patients get streets and prison cells? I have kids with both developmental disabilities and SMI and the SMI gets many fewer resources. [/quote]

I'm also sympathetic as well as shocked by some of the responses here (though I don't think the disabled are necessarily "coddled" with Medicaid - at least it wasn't that way for my adult sibling).

The tragedy here is that a different cop, different police department may have handled this situation in a radically different way - one that recognized the individual's mental illness and attempted to preserve their ability to gain employment. Unfortunately, it is hit or miss across departments and sometimes even within them.

The OP is clearly grieving in many ways. Sounds like their DC was high functioning and is now struggling (and high functioning doesn't have to mean status chasing). I didn't read it as they were blaming the system for their DC's mental illness but expressing frustration at how the system is limiting their DC's ability to succeed in their new reality. Success here = gain employment, not enroll in an Ivy. That isn't an unreasonable aspiration, but a necessary reality, especially in a society where there isn't really a safety net for the mentally ill.

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I cried reading this response. Felt like someone understood what I was trying to say.

I wish family members never have call cops for wellness check because so many things can go wrong. We had to because there is no other choice. We have had to call police 15 times in last 2 years ( 4 times after the incident that resulted in a criminal charge). Every single time it has been gut wrenching experience.

We have been grieving DC’s lost opportunities of a normal life due to mental illness. They were never Ivy aspirant (did not apply even when DC had the stat). DC wanted to be a professor and not a Doctor/Engineer/lawyer/banker… now cannot even find an administrative assistant job to just start an independent life. We did not expect them to have 6 figure salary (because that was not their dream) but did not think a bare minimum will be out of reach for them![/quote]

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