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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Ignore DH’s brother.

With your dad, have you told him how the comments come across?  Or what you would prefer from him?   He is probably used to being the expert in the room and is probably worried about your DD, and those two things are combining badly.[/quote]

OP here. I’ve tried to tell him, but it’s hard to get him to listen. I think you’re right. He really adores DD, but is used to being the expert and being the one to swoop in and have the answer. He had a long, successful legal career. It’s very hard for him to accept that someone else might know better. [/quote]

Either don't talk with your dad if you don't want his opinion, or actually listen to him. It's entirely possible that he knows more than you do. When he questions whether your child is really up to par because someone at the school said she is based on one DIBELS, it may not be what you want to hear, but he may have a point. Schools are constantly trying to wiggle out of providing services. How well was the tester actually trained???

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Her school is giving her phonics intervention and the DIBELS was done by the reading specialist. They were simply saying she’s on benchmark now, not that she doesn’t need services. The reading specialist said she’ll do another DIBELS soon and that we don’t know if she’ll be on benchmark then.

They are also giving her a language exemption to support her pull out tutoring.

They are implementing the full plan her neuropsychologist asked for. There’s no evidence at all that they’re trying to wiggle out of services.[/quote]

My point was that you are hardly an expert and it's quite common for parents to overtrust the school. Your dad may indeed be quite right to be skeptical. He does have experience in this area. You chose to share with your dad. Either be open minded to his feedback and realize he does have expertise in this area --- or since you instead want to discount his opinion, I don't understand why you are sharing with him at all.

If your only response you want from him is not his true opinion but just affirmation that you're doing everything right, then he is not your guy. Go get that from your therapist or some friend who knows nothing about this.[/quote]

While it’s true that one should “trust but verify,” you sound like you’re imposing your own experience on my situation, rather than actually viewing this objectively.

We are doing everything we can to put objective accountability measures in place. We are certainly not simply taking the school at their word.

My dad’s experience supporting profoundly disabled children in rural West Virginia in the 1970s is at best faintly relevant to my daughter’s situation with a LD in MoCo in 2023. 
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