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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I leave it entirely up to DH.

So before you came in the picture, he literally never saw his mother? They didn’t visit or speak? Wow, good thing you came along to save the day. Oh wait…THEY DID. Maybe not as often as you think they “should,” but they are two grown adults who can manage their own relationship, OP.[/quote]

Precisely.   This kind of op is not about scheduling because that is simple.  It is all about very controlling neurotic women who don't like their in laws very much and don't like their husbands very much.  They want to force their husbands to schedule things with the in laws but it has to be according to the imaginary set of rules that the wives unilaterally decide on.   This neurotic approach creates more work and more potential for scheduling conflicts than just doing all the scheduling themselves.   Look at the nutty posts from these belligerent harpies.  [/quote]

No, not “precisely.” You’re advocating for the wife to do it and I say leave it up to DH. If he managed a relationship with MIL before you he can manage it now.[/quote]

No, I was not arguing for the wife to do it.

I was saying it's up to her whether she does it or not.  If she chooses not to do it, that doesn't mean she should have any expectation that her husband will do it.  That's up to him.

OP didn't say she would stop doing it.  She said she wants to torch to her husband.  In other words, try to make him do it, and do it her way, or else she will be angry and resentful.

She never had to start making arrangements with the in laws in the first place. That was her choice.  [/quote]

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