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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If you are a witness, stick to facts, not opinions. 
As in, when you were present, did the father arrive on time to drop off or pick up his child, did he feed his child at mealtimes, did he raise his voice, did you see him do X, Y, Z act on his child, did he insult his child with X, Y, Z words, did you see him drunk, use drugs or drive erratically, etc.

Very, very factual. No injection of opinion at all. The father will have to determine with his lawyer whether that's sufficient. You're not in a position to gush and say: "in all the years I've know Josh, he's been the best father that Larlo could ever ask for, blah blah blah...".
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OP you can't answer.any of the above.  You don't know when the pickup times were that the parents agreed to.  You don't know what the meal arrangements.were.  you can't testify that you saw him drunk unless it was glaringly obvious and you actually saw him drink alcohol.

Factual means:  "I saw him between 4-6 times at soccer games.  I know him as one of the parents of my childs teammates.  I may have said hello to him at these games or briefly exchanged pleasantries as I would with any other parent.  I do not recall any specific conversations.  I have no personal knowledge of what is going on between him and his spouse or within his family as other than the soccer games I have had no or minimal interactions with him.  I have no personal information suggesting he is not a good parent, but the same is true as regards my lack of knowledge concerning the mom.  I do not have sufficient knowledge of his character to meaningfully provide a character reference nor do I have sufficient knowledge as to his reputation in the community to be able to testify about that either."[/quote]

You are very stupid. I was presenting examples, since OP mentioned the kids played together. If OP invited this kid for a playdate, or the father invited OP and kid to a playdate at his place, such interactions might have been observed. The entire point of my post is that OP be factual about the number of times OP observed this person with his child, and how they behaved around the child.

If OP does not want to be a witness, cool. 
If they're fine being a witness, all it involves is telling the truth.

And to the other PP with their definition of character witness, they can be difficult to find when people move around a lot and don't get involved in their community. Perhaps the father in question has lined up other character witnesses, but he also would like an additional point of view.

It's not complicated. People are not thinking rationally here. [/quote]

And you are very smart, if you are a potato.  I think you might be [/quote]

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