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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why have your young adults live in the US if you’re culturally unwilling to have them take care of their own clothes? That kind of domestic employee is rare in the US not least because it’s seen as shameful. [/quote]
Is it shameful to have someone come and clean once a week, just so things are somewhat clean?[/quote]

In this country we tend to have housecleaners, but they don’t do any handling of personal belongings. Except maybe doing laundry, but from an organized area, not piles on the floor. People on dcum will confirm that they scurry to tidy their houses before the cleaners come. Cleaners aren’t there to pick up toys or put things away. [/quote]
I get that. That is why I was asking if anyone knows a cleaner for hoarders.[/quote]

We don’t otherwise I’d have hired one for our house!

OP, I think you need to insist your daughter attend her therapy, that she stays on meds, and that she work with an executive functioning coach for adults, centered on household/life tasks. Your DD has a certain profile that makes it really hard for her to function. It’s so impressive she has a paying job and that this part of her life is going well! But she has to continue working on the other aspects. She needs to build routines NOW, while her brain is still malleable. It’s not at 40 that she’ll start learning good habits. If she can get it together in her 20s, she’ll be able to have a social life, advance in her career, hire out tasks as much as possible. If she wants a family, she will need to pick someone who is more organized than she is!
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Thank you so much for this post. It has been a struggle to see her through college, but we did somehow. It has created in her that mom and dad will do anything I want attitude. But, when your child is so severely and criminally attacked, the truth is we would do anything to help her. The fact that she got a job within a week of finishing college is impressive. The fact that she used my credit card to beyond anything is shameful.[/quote]

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