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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yes, there is extreme favoritism.  Sometimes it overt and other times more subtle.

As an overt example, I'm the oldest and when I turned 18 my parents stopped buying me Christmas presents.  They said they needed to save their resources for "the kids."  I'd come home from college and spend Christmas morning watching my teenage siblings open laptops, dSLRs and iPhones while I got nothing (despite having used my minimum wage job to purchase presents for everyone else).  I learned a few years later that this "rule" only applied to me and my siblings continued to get extravagant Christmases for years after turning 18, while I'd still get nothing or a token pair of socks.  It was hurtful and humiliating.  If you ask my mom, who purchases the presents, it's because I'm so self sufficient that I don't need presents, I can just work and buy things for myself.

There are a million more examples, but that's one that's easy to tell.[/quote]

I have a similar Christmas story. Siblings all got nice thoughtful gifts. I got something from the basement and here's the kicker it was something I had purchased years before that for some insane reason I'd thought she'd like. Another Christmas I asked for a specific doll and got told no it was too expensive. But somehow there was money for when my sister wanted a more expensive toy or the same doll a year later . many .ore examples.
I really wish terrible people just wouldn't be able to reproduce [/quote]

DP here.  This is such crappy behavior.  The parents I know that practice favoritism, have generational favoritism - it has been happening in their family since the beginning of time - not that different than alcoholism.  Of course, not that they would admit it.  They lack the very basic of parenting skills, and stems from NPD.

Think about it, would you want to be the favored child? How could that possibly end well, with your life so skewed and off kilter?

In the realm of "gifts", would you want anything form these dirty people who tend to favor those most like them - to be reminded of their ever looming NPD? The gifts would only serve to remind you how dirty and gross the people who favor are, who wants to be reminded of them and their dirty behavior?

Dirty people = dirty gifts.  No thanks, I would rather live in peace, knowing that I broke the cycle.

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*favoritism stems from NPD[/quote]

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