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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]But says he doesn't know whether he's straight, gay or bi -- just chalks it up to never being attracted too someone.[/quote]

If he was straight he would know it even if there wasn't anyone he'd be attracted to.[/quote]

This isn't true for everyone. There are different hormones at play when it comes to lust, attraction, and attachment. Not everyone develops or process hormones the exact same way. Some people are low T (this diminishes feelings of lust), some people have receptor issues with dopamine or serotonin (like in ADHD --  lower levels of dopamine and norepinephrine are both linked to ADHD, just an example, but also depression and anxiety are related to these same elements), so their experience of relationships is not going to be identical with those who have "raging hormones" running through them, and those who get a dopamine high they recognize as attraction. https://sitn.hms.harvard.edu/flash/2017/love-actually-science-behind-lust-attraction-companionship/#:~:text=Testosterone%20and%20estrogen%20drive%20lust,oxytocin%20and%20vasopressin%20mediate%20attachment.

Young kids seem to be in a huge rush to tell everyone "what" they are. There is a lot of peer pressure to identify, and if you don't have a boyfriend/girlfriend or crush, they feel they need to announce a word for themselves. No one seems to be telling them that it's OK if you don't fall in love until your 20s or 30s or 40s or later, just as it is OK to never have that feeling. Some kids feel under so much pressure to know which sexuality "club" to join. It's OK to not have a label yet or ever. Sometimes the friends have got to just lay off and let people develop at their own pace. Our bodies are not all identical to each other, and we don't all feel the same things at the same time.[/quote]

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