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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It’s bizarre to me that “zero involvement” seems to be a sort of [b]badge of honor [/b]for some posters. This is a huge step in a kids life and most need support of some kind. It’s less surprising that some people full on write/do everything (good luck to those kids, yikes).

We helped keep our kids on track with reminders about scheduling—they came up with the actual schedule for working on essays themselves, but needed help with thinking forward. We reviewed essays and made suggestions for edits, some of which they took, some they rejected. Reviewed the final draft just to check for grammar, punctuation etc. [/quote]

Let me explain their mindset to you. A lot of people on DCUM feel competitive, and sometimes channel that competition in things that don't actually matter. One of those areas is how precocious their kid is. Just read some of the threads on chores: they're laughably insane. It's a bunch of people bragging about how early they're making their little kids empty the dishwasher! They've entirely lost track of the fact that none of it matters, because no chore has a challenging learning curve, and every young adult knows how to do laundry, make a bed, vacuum, etc. Sure, they want their kids contributing to the household, but there's a lot of leeway for that, and contributing comes in many forms.

This is the logical next step. The parents who were so proud that Kiddo could put the trash to the curb, feed the dog and scoop the litter box at 7 will be equally proud that Kiddo did all their college apps alone.

They are oblivious to the fact that in the long run, it doesn't really matter. The arc of life is long, success depends on a measure of luck, work ethic and social and technical intelligence, and the very specific skill of doing things by themselves at an early age isn't - AT ALL - representative of the skills an adult will need to be "successful"...

...But anything to one-up other people online :-)

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