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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, We've had caregivers for around 12 years.

Are you hiring these direct pay? Or are you getting the caregivers from an agency?

Set up accounts with 3 agencies.  Give him the phone numbers of the 3 agencies. If he fires someone then it is on him to call around to get someone for the next day.  The agencies generally can't supply someone same day.

I'd also tell the agencies what is going on so they can prep the caregivers that your husband fires people abruptly. The agencies may have some strategies they recommend also.

If a caregiver has not shown up the next day (because he has fired someone the day before) then give him the numbers of the 3 agencies, 
leave him a male urinal, several sandwiches and several bottles of bottled water on bedside table or one of those tables that swings over the bed.

You go to work.

He should be able to handle using the male urinal, sandwiches and bottled water during the day.

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That wouldn't work for us, I really wish it would. He is extremely helpless and disabled, like if he dropped the urinal to the floor he couldn't get it back on his own. He needs help opening up water bottles, etc. He isn't paralyzed but it is similar.

But I think I have gotten some good ideas from this thread.  We DEFINITELY need an agreement that he will contact the agency to ask to phase an aide out instead of just firing them, but also he needs training on how to "manage" an aide i.e. provide corrective feedback.  And I can't just leave him home all day but I can work on backup options that don't require me to be home all day either, than won't be super comfortable for him but also won't be unsafe.[/quote]

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