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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m amazed how many DHs who don’t do chores are explained away by having AHDH.  
In this case, OP, why are you attributing it to ADHD and not a more run of the mill laziness or resentment towards you because you make much more money than him? He sees you doing everything and knows how much this bothers you and still doesn’t do anything about it? [/quote]

Lol. My husband is a military planner and former infantry officer who insisted he couldn’t pick kids up from play dates because he couldn’t find the addresses, didn’t know where people lived etc. and I am like “you’re saying that you could plan the Invasion of Normandy but you can’t take someone to a birthday party? Try again!”

For all of the “I forgot “ stuff try this: when you put the laundry in. Ask Alexa to remind you in an hour to switch it. We both have ADHD and we have so many reminders set on that thing! Alexa reminds us to straighten up the house before the cleaners come on Wednesday, reminds us to take the trash out on Tuesday, etc. and there’s this feature where if you say you need an urgent reminder (ie pick up flea medicine for the dog), it will remind you and text you every hour until you do it. I also put a lot of things on auto ship these days too.

Yes, it's far more likely to be[b] learned incompetence[/b] rather than ADHD in the vast majority of cases. They function just fine at work, they just don't WANT to at home.[/quote]

100% this. If they are fine on the job and not perpetually unemployed, they can do the job but they just don't care nor want to give it the level of effort expected by their spouse because they know spouse will pick up the slack somehow.[/quote][/quote]

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