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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Everyone is invited. You can’t exclude your brothers wife and children. Your nephews are adults. They are welcome, and you would adore for them to come. But that doesn’t mean you’re going to disinvite your brothers wife.

They are adults and need to start acting like adults. Divorce and remarriage is really hard on kids. Holidays make it harder. But the answer is not to get involved in what is, in the end, their own petty hatred of their dads new wife.

My answer changes if his new wife abused these boys as teens or something of course. Abusers get disinvited. [/quote]

She wasn't abusive but she expected acceptance and went out of her way to get them to like her. Expensive gifts, coming to their games, sending them food packages. She really wanted them to like her. She used to cry to our parents, "I do this and I do that, and nothing is ever good enough, they don't even say hello to me." She would also tell her kids to call them "brother and sisters" and they HATED it, it was so forced and awkward. These kids are tough, they do not budge. On the contrary, their mother is about to remarry and they are friendly with their future stepdad and his DS. [/quote]
It sounds like there's a lot more to the story that you're either leaving out or do not know.
It's highly unlikely that all 3 would refuse to come based on this alone and have no issues at all with mom.and soon to be stepdad and stepsiblings.
I mean to me just what you shared tells me she's a manipulative possibly narcissistic person. And I know he's your brother but that they don't even want to deal with it just for a bit to hang with dad is telling. something  is rotten.
The easy thing is to stay neutral as far as invites go and you offer to host the kids at a different time. Stay a positive force in their lives and be prepared for some shocking things to come out

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