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[quote=Anonymous]Yes, I was/am in a similar situation. I got a crappy job I didn't like out of college in 2010 during the recession, lived in a gross apartment with my boyfriend (many years later, now my husband), started paying off my student loans and went on with my life. My boyfriend's dad (now my FIL) helped us move our stuff into our apartment. My brother graduated two years later and moved back in with them while he struggled to find work. When he did get a job, they helped him move into his apartment and bought him a bunch of stuff to help furnish it. They made his student loan payments for him for years. He did eventually end up paying off the rest of his loans himself using a big bonus that he got one year, so it's not like he really needed their help once he got a job. Still, they live equally far (10 hour drive in opposite directions) from both me and my brother and we both have kids the same age (3 and 5). They go visit to babysit his kids all the time and never make the same offer to us. My brother and sister in law are on a week-long vacation right now while my parents are watching their kids. We don't have other help nearby us, so if we want a date night (forget a vacation), we hire a sitter. Last year, my youngest was in the hospital and we dropped off our oldest with 10 minutes notice with friends who kept her for the whole day, fed her breakfast, lunch and dinner, and would have kept her overnight for us if we needed it. I sometimes feel like my parents think because we built ourselves a village and my brother didn't, that we don't need the help the way he does. Or because we live in a more expensive area, we must be "loaded" and don't need their help. It's very hard and I understand where you're coming from. But, as you say, I'll never have this conversation with them.[/quote]
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