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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Lots of men marry the woman that makes it "easy", not the woman they really loved.  Breakups breed bad blood on both sides- it's humiliating to contact an ex and say that you can't stop thinking about.  It's a massive risk of rejection, especially to someone who's already hurt you.

So most people will have a breakup with someone they really did love and plow forward into a new relationship.  Sometimes it's exclusively for the purpose of rubbing it in the face of their ex, sometimes theyre genuinely trying to move on.

Either way, many people have a person in the back of their mind, that they think of frequently and would be with in a split second if they could do their life differently.  But life has a funny way of working out and many people get swept into jobs, friendships, relationships without even consciously thinking about it, until some major event happens that drives in the reality of what they've done.  [/quote]

This. Yes. And women do this too. I married a guy who was “perfect” on paper. My mother loved him. He was a good fit for the family and social ties. Kept thinking I was 30 and my time to find a good catch was run out. We have a good life. But I don’t love him madly or deeply. We love and care for each other but, I don’t think he was ever really capable of a deeper connection and the substance abuse doesn’t help.

I guess in dealing with the loneliness and emptiness, I ended up falling in love with a man I’ve known for a long time. He is married. But married for convenience, career etc. We’ve both admitted regret at not making a move many moons ago.

It’s too late for us at this point. We love each other and rather than blow up families, we keep together from the outside. No PA because it would be game over for families.  Just a very strong connection and deeply in love.

I had my first baby a few years ago and he was eager to hear how it all went. Wanted pictures etc. There was a moment where we both wished we had made a family together. Always on the outside looking in and loving from afar.

C’est la vie. [/quote]

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