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[quote=Anonymous]Seems marriage counseling is a booming business right now, so many aren’t taking new clients but one has been found after interviewing a few, first appointment is next week.  
The counselor sees both of us for the first session, then each of us separately and then the following sessions are joint.

She’s been incredibly nice, open and affectionate but it feels fake and a sorta offputting, she ignored me for a year and a half and all a sudden we’re best friends?

There have been very few discussions about recent events and I shut them down when she starts; I feel like this is too big to handle on our own without a professional. Her side of conversations tend to get circular and instead of talking about what happened a month ago i’m trying to remember some event in 2015.

I really don’t know what’s left here to salvage my feelings for her have really run out and the five or six I love yous I hear from her every day get more and more unbelievable.

We’ve both traumatized the shit out of each other in different ways and I would love to put it behind us. I’m not even angry about her affair and can totally see how it happened but her near daily jabs about my EA have made me lose respect because they are so astoundingly hypocritical, I do not return fire even though I’ve come up with an easy 150 of them.

I live in the present and the future, my DW lives in the distant past, I think I know the answer but is this something marriage counselor would help with?
  
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