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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]All this talk of how grandparents used to be is selective or skewed memory.[/b] In my family there has been no involved grandparents for the 2 generations I'm aware of. Silent generation or the Boomers.

On the other hand, I have one friend whose parents want to still be the parents of the kids and grandkids. Drives my friend (and her husband) nuts.

Frankly, I think it's a case where most people want something that doesn't or rarely exists.

Anecdotal stories here doesn't make it a trend. Just evidence that it happens in every generation. [/quote]

+1. Also, most people are only aware of their own family dynamics and *maybe* their close friends' family dynamics. So those in this thread claiming "grandparents were more involved a generation ago" are really only speaking about their own experience or the experience of a few of their friends, not an entire generation.

I'm a millennial w/ Boomer parents and silent generation grandparents. One set of grandparents was local but we rarely saw them and they were not involved at all in childcare. One set of grandparents wasn't local so we traveled to see them a few times a year and they traveled to see us a few times a year but they didn't provide childcare and we didn't have particularly close relationships with them. Now that I think of it, only one of my friends growing up had local grandparents and they were the type who'd come over for Sunday dinner but otherwise they were not involved. In my social circle now, a lot of people have local parents/grandparents who are involved w/ their kids so I'd be likely to say "grandparents these days are much more involved than they were when I was a kid" even though I know that's just based on a few people in my social circle and doesn't describe the whole generation.[/quote]

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