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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]Seems there's a rise of grandparents who really don't want to take care of little kids, even just for a weekend.[/b] At least this is what I'm seeing a lot in my various circles. They're more tired and less tolerant than what I remember grandparents being like when I was a kid.

Do you think they want to more fully check out, or at least give themselves a simpler reason to not be involved?[/quote]
It’s not their role to take care of little kids. That’s the role of parents.

And of course this generation of grandparents are more tired. Retirement ages have pushed back significantly. Gone are the days of retirement pay starting between 50-55. And when their kids don’t start having kids until they are late 30s, grandparents are much older too. [/quote]

I agree it's not their responsibility, but it is something parents want - for the break & help, but also for their kids to have memories. So there's resentment if the grandparents are lackluster about fulfilling what was a typical grandparent's role 30 years ago.

Grandparents also seem less embracing of common parenting practices and methods these days which also doesn't help.[/quote]

This feels like a really outdated perspective. Most people I know don't live near their parents, and their parents are older. I know relatively few families where grandparents have been involved in caregiving on a regular basis.[/quote]

I don't know of any ancient grandparents. Most people still become grandparents around 60-65, which coincides nicely with their retirement. My friends who had kids when their parents were in their 50s really struggled as they didn't receive any help at all because their parents were still working. My mom had me at 30 and I had all 3 kids 30-35, which seems average.

[b]Considering people are living until their 90s, 10-15 years of being hands on grandparents at 60 isn't a big deal.[/b] [/quote]

Isn't a big deal to whom?

So grandparents should spend their active, healthy years being hands-on with their grandchildren, after which they are pretty much in assisted living and nursing homes?[/quote]

Yes that seems to be the view of the younger generation who also believe that their grandparents should skip a generation and give them all of the inheritance money.

Basically their parents are relegated to servitude in their retirement years. I’m glad my kids have no such expectations [/quote]

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