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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Men affair down. The "lesser" women throw themselves at him in a way that makes him feel validated, desired, powerful, etc. They are eager to please him whether that's doing anything in bed or letting him call the boundaries and run the show. Also, in general, people who get involved with a married person likely have some sort of issue whether that's mental health, self worth, insecure, anxious attachment, previous abuse.[/quote]
Listen, I am sure this is true sometimes, but believing this is universally true is just a way for you to cope with uncomfortable truths.[/quote]

I'm not sure why it would be an uncomfortable truth for me, nobody is cheating on me.

The reality is men just need someone to sooth their ego and constantly tell them they are amazing. That's the job of the AP. They don't have to be smart or all that good looking, nobody is taking OW out for all to see.

I'm sure there are some high valued men who can snag an OW who is better than their wife but it is an outlier.

I get it, [b]your an OW[/b] and you think you are better than the wife and you need to feel that is true for own severely damaged self esteem, but it just isn't. [/quote]

"You're."

But come on. Men aren't always cheating down. Many are doing quite well. And women will totally cheat down too. People will cheat with someone who is available to them and offers them what they think they're missing. Women need to stop telling themselves that they're not being picked because men would rather have someone who is less formidable. Men pick someone who is available and makes them feel good. Women do the same. That's it.  [/quote]

Sure not never, there are outliers. 
Women will cheat down if they think it will help them exit.

Men are not looking for "something they are missing" come on man, how old are you.

But I get you need to feel like you are better than the wife, your damaged soul is seeking validation. I'm sorry for that, but the reality is, if you were all that great you would not be an AP.[/quote]

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