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[quote=Anonymous]Those saying they have no interest, the point is that your child may feel differently than you and their feelings are the ones that matter. If you are anything but neutral about whether these genetic relatives could matter, then you are pressuring your child. Your job is to process your feelings on your own and then be present to support them on whatever journey they prefer to make. Sperm/egg donor-conceived people have been around long enough now that we can actually ask those who are adults how they feel about it and a high percentage have conflicted feelings about their identity and how they fit into their family and whether genetic relatives are family members. Many of them have found it very healing to connect to their donors or half-siblings. The idea that donors should be anonymous is borrowed from the world of adoption, where secrecy and anonymity came from two sources: 1) The practice of adopting indigenous children out to white christian families to “civilize” them (aka erase their native language, religion and culture) 2) A deeply evil woman named Georgia Tann. Go look her up. All the research on adoption and donor conception shows that both groups do best when parents are as open and honest as possible.[/quote]
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