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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Not all mothers are good mothers.  It's not that hard.

Bringing a child into the world is a selfish act, right?  It's for YOU.  Why should children spend all their lives showing eternal gratitude for life when you had them for your own desires?

I am blessed with a wonderful mother, but I also realize that not everyone should be having kids.  [b]And the ones who feel the most entitled to "gratitude" are usually the worst.[/b]

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This. When some gets mad that people are not more grateful to them, it's a big "jerk" red flag to me. Well adjusted people don't go around asking why people aren't more grateful to them.

Also, my experience as a parent is that if you are doing it so that someone will be grateful to you and fawn all over you telling you how great you are, you did it for the wrong reasons. Even if ultimately that does happen, you shouldn't become a parent unless you find the intrinsic rewards of parenting worthwhile. I feel such pride and love for my children when I see them doing well, being good people, figuring things out for themselves. I have never once thought "well why aren't they thanking ME for giving that to them?" Even though I do think the hard work I put into parenting is part of what results in those successes. But I just feel pride and don't need accolades from them. [/quote]

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