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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]For background, at the end of the spring we left my daughters long time team to join a new soccer club.  My daughters previous team was very good, however they were extremely reliant on my daughter and two other girls, we played the worst brand of soccer in the premier division because outside of our 3 top athletes the other girls were less committed & less skilled.  I wanted my daughter in an environment with a stronger supporting cast of players who matched her commitment to soccer.

We moved clubs, the new club was extremely excited to get her & there is a lot to like, everyone is extremely committed, has functional ball skills and it is a less "well off" area so the parents are just much nicer to interact with.  They train very hard and I think the coach is very good.

I am a life long soccer person, played NCAA, coached high school & did private trainings for many years.  So I know my stuff, I am very involved in my daughters development but i usually just keep my mouth shut and let things play out.

Here is my problem, my daughter is one of the 2 most talented players on the new team.  If you look at pure ability, she is the strongest, fastest, strikes the ball the best & has the best ball skills.  She is currently playing out of position (was center mid forever) since the other girl who is also a high level talent plays that and was there first and they are comparable (Mine is better athlete, other is smarter and better motor).  They are playing her as a winger and the coach has empowered her some by having her take most of the free kicks (she always took all).

We are now in October, she joined the team in July and my daughter has not started a game yet, despite this she has more goals and assists then the other wingers combined.  There is no comparison ability wise between her and the other players, but they have been on the team since they were little.  There is a time limit on this for me, she works very hard, never misses a practice and is a huge difference maker in the age group.  At what point can i say that this is a problem for me and if it is not fixed she will move?

Any team i take her to will want her so we will have options, but with the stuff I like about the club, I was hoping this could be a longer term home.  
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Listen to yourself.

Your daughter is the best. Everyone else is a “supporting cast.” You have been micromanaging her soccer journey and are impatient.

You are a coach’s worst nightmare.[/quote]

I do micro manage the journey and try and make sure she is placed in the proper environments for long term development.  Unlike most parents I was fortunate enough to have success in the sport and believe that is an advantage.  I have never had a poor relationship with any of her coaches.  I stfu on the sideline and just watch.  [/quote]

Not sure I'd call what you are doing here stfu. Sounds more like you get along with coaches as long as they have as high an opinion of your daughter as you do. Then you are quiet and supportive of the coach. There is no long term development environment where you will always agree with the coach, the process, and how your daughter is handled. For your daughter's sake I hope you can let go and allow the environment you, with all your soccer knowledge, determined to be proper and let them do their thing without undermining them with daddy knows better. Or maybe you should take all that knowledge, become her coach, and then you can be in complete control.
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