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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous] I don't think you can ban the other parent from taking the child to religious things on their parenting time OP.

[b]I'm very happy that we included Right of First Refusal. Ours starts at 4 hours-basically if the parent who has parenting time cannot care for the child for 4 hours or more, they must first offer parenting time to the other parent before getting other care (in school time is not included in this).[/b] Also our order specifies that parenting time is between the biological parents.

Really spelling things out like holidays, vacations, out of state notifications, future cell phone plans, orthodontics (mine says split cost whether needed or cosmetic, although our dc's is needed), passports, schooling, child contact with parents,  all the things, has been useful for us.

I suggest googling the Florida parenting plan. It's very thorough and will give you ideas of what to put in yours.[/quote]

NP here
Does it cover parties/time with friends?  If your kid's friend has a sleep over party from 6 pm-9 am and you are fine with your kid attending (and obviously you would not be there) can your ex contest this?[/quote]

PP here. We have not had this issue raised, but based on my reading of our plan-Yes, I believe the other parent could. Ours specifies that parenting time applies only to the biological parents. On one hand, it may let ex prevent dc from a sleepover that I approve of. On the other hand, I could prevent dc from a sleepover that I do not approve of. [/quote]

If its his time you should not be approving a sleep over.[/quote]

If it's in the agreement that parenting time is for biological parents, then yes you get offered parenting time first, before a child would spend extended time away from the biological parents.[/quote]

Part of parenting is giving your kids a variety of experiences, including social experiences and experience with separation.  Divorce doesn't mean the kid should give those things up![/quote]

exactly. ROFR is for very young kids and should be carefully tailored to the situation. to me the nightmare would be that if I, say, had a work event to go to one evening when I had custody time I’d have to “offer” that to my ex before getting a sitter. He says yes and then guess what - flakes out and refuses to come get kid, leaving me screwed.

ROFR should really be very carefully drafted to make sure YOU get the flexibility you need, and that it won’t hurt the child. Probably should in any event sunset by the time the kid is in mid-elementary. [/quote]

The solution in this case would be to make rofr for maybe 8 or more hours, so it wouldn't apply to an evening work event. [/quote]

No, you’d have to tailor it more than that. If it’s an infant or small child, you might want it to be less than 8 hrs. [/quote]

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