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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You can't build your life around around your mother's personality disorder. Do what's right for your kid. [/quote]

This is the correct answer. [b]Even though you've probably already built your life around it for decades. [/b]But you can at least not build your child's life around it.[/quote]

OP here - I'm curious, what do you mean by this? I don't doubt that my relationship with my mother is unhealthy in many ways. I'd love to hear an outsider's perspective. I don't know what it is like to have a different type of mother.[/quote]
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First,  big hugs and congratulations on you and your partner for recognizing the need for and seeking a diagnosis and attendant supports for your baby. Whatever the diagnosis your child is already a winner with you as a parent.
Now what the pp was referring to.
Step back, no judgment fir yourself or your mom, and think about all the ways you may have predicated your perspective, your choices, your CHOICE PROCESS on your mom’s responses, opinions, behavior.
Bottom line you are probably reflexively making ‘what will mom say or do’ the first thing you consider when you have decisions to make.
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