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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Hey OP. Back to your actual questions, i terminated at 21 wks at GW via L&D. They were really good to me. I ended up switching to their practice for OB care. I would recommend them highly. Personally, I would not have dealt well with traveling or with being around family/friends/hotel, so that is something to consider. My husband stayed with me. it did take a long time for L&D. They started my cytotec 2.5 days before I delivered.

It was really difficult emotionally, but looking back I know it was the right decision for me and my family and I do not have regrets. I will always miss that baby, but[b] I did not want him to live with his many health issues. [/b]I did have another baby, a healthy one, the following year and I treasure him that much more. Remember that this isn't your fault and things will be better, with some time.[/quote]

We are all one illness or one accident away from having to live with health issues.[/quote]

And so what? Are you disagreeing with me when I say I didn't want my baby to live? How helpful do you think that is exactly? Helpful to me? To a dead baby? To the OP? I get that you find yourself very smart and insightful, but that has no bearing here. [b]If you are so naive to think that women undergo late terminations without thinking them through first,[/b] you are an idiot. And if you think that second guessing someone else's painful personal choice is just a fun way to pass the time, then you are just cruel and thoughtless.[/quote]

I think many women are indeed pressured, guilted, manipulated or shamed into having abortions that they otherwise would not choose.  A women's greatest instinct is to protect that growing being inside of her, and it is not wrong to listen to that instinct.    Who tells us that imperfect babies are better off not being born?  Why do we so automatically accept that?  Would a mother order a mercy killing on her born child?  Most likely not - unless we had a culture that encouraged us to do that.   I have no idea what exposure OP has had to those families who allow their T18 babies to be born, but I would suspect that she has not spoken or met with any of them.  While of course this is her right, she is not making a true choice unless she hears that perspective as well.  [/quote]

You are making a number of disturbing assumptions here, not the least of which is that women who disagree with you must do so out of ignorance.  OP came here for help with an incredibly painful situation, looking for specific information.  You and your like-minded PPs made this thread into a vehicle for causing her further, unnecessary pain without any indication that your opinions were solicited or necessary. Congratulations.[/quote]

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