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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]And you are involved in what way? Did your son ask for your help? Butt out. [/quote]

Not OP, but this is a weird response.  OP clearly indicated that her son was talking to her about it.

There is a difference between trying to control and adult child, and being someone that they come to for advice and to talk things through.  I certainly hope my kids do that when they are grown.  I know I STILL go to my parents in that capacity and I am approaching 50.[/quote]

The difference, however, is in this case, OP has an opinion about her. Her ability to provide objective non-biased feedback is already compromised. [/quote]

[b]What? It is her son, of course she has a “non biased feedback”. [/b]

Op, I would encourage him to take his time and think about the life he wants. It can be with her or not. Would he find a job there, have a career, make friends if he moved for her and it doesn’t work out with her? He is a BF at this point. 
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Maybe you are too dumb to understand this but... You got to let your kid grow up. That means you need to step aside and let him go his way. [/quote]

So if a kid calls to vent or for advice you can only say “none of my business.” That’s ridiculous. [/quote]

Well - you talk differently with your kid than you would with other people about what your kid is doing, I think. You can empathize with him when he says she misrepresented herself, it's not fair, blah blah blah - but I wouldn't report that to outsiders as if it's a fair reading of the situation. They've been together 3 years and aren't engaged or married - this seems like the right time for the GF to move, if that's what she wants to do. And OP's son can decide that this woman is worth changing his life for, or that this relationship has run its course (without anyone having been the bad guy).

But really - OP sounds too invested in her son's perspective on this. And I can see why the GF doesn't feel welcome with her![/quote]

If you have a therapist read the post and your reaction to the post to them do they can help you with your disordered thinking.

You have way too much damage in your life for me to explain to you why you have this all wrong.[/quote]

Not pp.  Your post is crazy pants and you are in denial. Op has a strong opinion and is making it clear to her ds  and doing it in a manipulative way. Your saying that those of us who don’t support this are damaged is comedy gold. It’s clear who needs therapy here. [/quote]

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