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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My DD is 23.  Most of her friends have been raped.  She herself has been assaulted twice, forced to have sex by someone she was alone with willingly.  Both times she was drunk.

What has your young adult's experience been?

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My DD is young and not dating. But there is a similar experience with myself and my friend group. The things we have experienced or endured (e.g., groping at work, sexual assault and rape, being held down and told "you know you want it") would be shocking to people. Not only for the fact these things happened -which is bad enough- but the boys/men who did it. It's the all-American star QB, the "nice boy" from the family down the street. The son of the teacher or coach. It's not just the overt creeps doing things like this. And even if we told you, you wouldn't believe us.

And it's not an exception. [/quote]

Coming here to say this. I don't think I know a single adult woman who hasn't experienced some form of sexual coercion in a romantic relationship. I have. My sister and mother have. My friends. Their friends. Your friends. Men feel entitled to women's bodies. Whether it's in a relationship or not. Whether they even know you or not.

It's not that it's happening more. It's that we are not concealing it to protect men's feelings and our reputations anymore.[/quote]

Yes, but sexual coercion is not the same thing as sexual violence. I have been sexually coerced on many, many occasions by both long term partners and more casual acquaintances. Every time ( at least 10) saying “no” or “stop” or physically leaving stopped the the aggression. I am not denying that some were dangerous situation that could have escalated.

However more often than not what I have witnessed amongst my friends is that women and girls lack the ability, confidence, or judgement to simply say “No” or “Stop”. Of course men know this and target women who seem like easy targets who they can manipulate into sex. There are many men who would not forcefully continue once a woman stays stop but will absolutely sexually coerce an inebriated woman. [/quote]

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