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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here, we are both old enough, no money issues (he's actually a big law partner) and date was drinks/dinner.  There wasn't alot of back and forth, he actually said he preferred to split on first date.  I agree it was kind of tacky.  It's hard at first because people are sizing eachother up on first dates for red flags.  Being cheap is one of the big ones for me as it was a big deal with my ex.[/quote]

Oh. heck. no. I would have been willing to cut the guy some slack if he has been (as some of the pps have mentioned) a poor college student or entry level/first job at a non-profit saving the environment or abused children or whatever. But a Biglaw guy both makes decent money and is sophisticated enough to understand how to impress someone. (Not that other people aren't sophisticated too, just that to make partner you have to attract clients. To attract clients, you have to know how to make a good impression. It's just a safe bet this particular guy has some pretty good people skills in order to make it where he is career-wise.) Anyway, I can assure you that if this guy was over the moon for you he would have picked up the tab. This is the dating stage where the people who like each other try to make a positive impression. Even if he is totally enlightened and egalitarian, his people skills are good enough for him to know that many women might interpret not paying the check as cheap. He doesn't know you well enough to know if you will or won't think that, so why is he taking the chance? [/quote]

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