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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think reproducing and having kids is common and necessary to continue the species. I think modern parenting is on another level and because of it, many women are unhappy. [/quote] +1 well put Children are a gift to all people, parents or not. But so much about the way our society is set up makes it all much harder than it has to be. I was talking to an older gentleman, maybe 65. His mother locked them out of the house every morning. “Go play.” And she stayed at home. Paid employment plus kids equals the double shift. Plus you’re reinforcing the lack of value given to care of young kids as daycare workers are badly paid. Staying at home means isolation unless you’re very social and have a good amount of money. It also means wrangling a little kid or two for a few years to teach them to behave (because you’re responsible for his behavior after all) without yelling or corporal punishment. “It’s just a hard season mama. Don’t compare yourself to men!” It doesn’t have to be this hard. We chose to make it so. A start would be less insane expectations of mothers. [/quote] But expectations are just that, expectations. They aren’t rules or laws. Don’t want to volunteer? Then don’t. Don’t want to make organic baby food? Then don’t. Why is it more appropriate for some other underpaid woman to teach your child to behave rather than you? Be an adult. Live your life. Raise your children in a way that feels right to you. There are no actual consequences for failing to meet whatever expectations you think are out there. Important things require sacrifice. Guess what? Being a big shot lawyer has expectations too. If your husband isn’t understanding/supportive/pulling his weight then go to therapy. I mean the world isn’t going to solve your problems for you. [/quote]
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