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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Have your DD be very clear and explicit via text, not rude but not overly polite.

Keep the text and all his texts, notes etc. Go to his parents if it does not stop. He is basically stalking her, that's a terrible experience for a young girl.[/quote]

+1 to add that yes, keep screenshots of all texts, keep any physical communication like notes, and she should not answer any phone calls -- in fact has she already blocked him on phone and text? If not, why not? He needs to be blocked, just for starteers.

Screenshots etc. are so you have something to show his parents if they don't believe you. And to show a lawyer if things ever escalate. I hate to say that, but it's possible. You, parent, need to be the one to retain screenshots of texts, logs of how many times he's called, notes,etc., not your DD. She does'nt need the mental stress of being in charge of keeping evidence but it needs to be kept. If she has past texts in her phone from him, she neeeds to do screenshots and send you those.

OP, is he also hassling her AT school? Not clear to me if this is all happening because they're neiighbors or because they also interact at school. Are they at the same school--? If so, your DD and you together REALLY MUST go to the school counselor's office ASAP and ensure they know with crystal clarity what's going on and that this attention is unwelcome and must stop in school entirely. I would not leave that office until the counselor or a principal or someone had committed to telling the boy to stop, if he's doing any of this on school time/school grounds. If something happens at school you need to hold the school accountable but that can't happen until the school is alerted to this. Be aware, your DD might balk at "tattling" on him to the counselor's office but now is your time to teach your DD that it is not tattling or ratting him out and her feelings are legit here, and the school has a duty to protect her. It is not tattling or "getting someone in trouble" unduly if she feels threatened and afraid--which clearly she does. He does not have to utter a single threatening statement for her to feel under threat. [/quote]

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