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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Does she work outside the home, OP?  Because it sounds like she has a lot of time on her hands and doesn’t have an outlet or platform where she can be part of anything.  So she fabricates drama in every interaction she has.

My SIL is like this.  Incredibly anxious, super high maintenance and just exhausting to be around.  We’ve found that when she’s working and has an outlet she’s easier to tolerate.  [/quote]

THis. Your wife needs a job.  Not a 7300 sf house to make up drama about. Sounds like you've given her too much leeway.  [/quote]

DP. Those of you thinking jobs are magical cures, or at least outlets, for people with serious anxiety do not know what you're talking about. Yes, a job can help SOME people have less mental space for fixating on other things. But for some people, a job -- and especially [i]pressure from a spouse to find a job[/i] -- will ratchet up the anxiety far, far more and things at home will get much worse, not better. Stop blithely and ignorantly insisting a job is a fix for mental illness.

The OP's DW needs professional help before any job-hunting, FFS. She's sick and it sounds like OP assumes she is merely "dramatic." OP, are you going to start viewing these issues as anxiety talking, and anxiety taking over the person you love and want to help? Or are you just going to shrug and say you hate her (when what you really hate is the anxiety) and leave her?

And for PP above: OP has "given her too much leeway"? He's not her keeper who has her on a leash and who can choose to give her leeway or not. He's supposed to be her spouse who should be communicating with her when her behaviors are problematic. [/quote]

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