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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm trying to imagine what kind of school you work in that you would have to write a post on DCUM asking about this issue.  Have you no resources at your school?

I worked with a K student who was not potty trained but school personnel (spec ed teacher and paras) worked with him from the first day of school.  I believe his parents were also participating at home, it was a team effort.  He was autistic and also had weak muscle issues.

We also potty trained a 10 yr old who was much more seriously disabled whose parents were unable to train mostly due to having four other kids at home.  Not lazy, just overwhelmed.

I have also worked with 2nd and 3rd graders who wet their pants regularly or needed help wiping.  We did what we could to help them learn what they needed to learn.

These types of issues are common at all elementary schools, OP needs to find who they need to consult with and get them on board with this student's problem.  I've never heard of a school where the classroom teacher was expected to potty train students while teaching the curriculum and navigating the daily schedule.[/quote]

Thank you SO MUCH for writing this post. I was reading this thread and feeling crazy and disheartened by the attitude that somehow a 5 yr old struggling with a basic developmental issue was a ridiculous outlier. As a parent of a kid not much older with developmental delays, some of the comments on this thread are exactly what I fear teachers and other say about my child and my family when I'm not around. It's heartening to know there are educators who approach these issues with empathy and action, which is what is needed. Thank you so much.[/quote]

+1. We've had an incredibly difficult time potty training our two kids. Both have ASD, although to a casual observer, one might just seem like a shy, stubborn child with incredible anxiety. That one mostly potty trained at 4, after 2+ years of solid work, but due to significant anxiety and fear issues associated with BMs, continued to have accidents for years. The other wasn't daytime-trained until 5. I'm not sure whether he didn't know or didn't care, but he'd let loose and carry on without so much as pausing. Without full-day ABA working on it, I don't know how he would  have gotten potty trained.

In some ways, I can see how kids with fewer developmental delays and challenges would have an even harder time. Our first child didn't need ABA, but was probably too much for most preschools/child care centers to handle. We went through three centers that simply weren't able to work with him through potty training. And as he got older, it became even more challenging to find centers willing to work with him. Even if they said they would, they'd still put him back in pull-ups after one or two BM accidents in a day, setting everything back. If we hadn't been able to find the right center, he probably would have been having frequent accidents in kindergarten.[/quote]

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