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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If you:
- Married or met spouse by 30
- Made $150K or more by 30
- Owned SFH by 35 
- Graduated with zero or manageable debt
- Remained thin and healthy throughout 
- Continued with hobbies or activities or travel  to make a fulfilling life

How did you manage it? What are your secrets? Did you have your mind set on all of this and what sacrifices did you make that others didn’t? Where do you think others around you went wrong, so to speak? Did you have any adversity in your life? How did you avoid all the societal traps that prevent people from achieving this? Conversely, do you think this life is as “perfect”’as it seems or is there more to it? What advice would you your children, or 18-year-olds today? [/quote]

I love our life and it's perfect for me (and DH). We accomplished all the items you list not by doing everything right, but by luckily being born at a certain point in time. DH and I are now ages 60 & 55, and we married at ages 28/23 and had all four of our kids by ages 34/29 (including twins). It was possible to own a SFH on two so-so salaries, and we bought our home in the early nineties and paid it off in less than 30 years. This isn't possible these days, and I'm sad that my own (now adult) kids can't afford their own homes - not even the married ones.

Graduated with zero debt - again, we were lucky to be born when we were. I paid my way through college by working full-time and going to school part-time, but you can't do that any longer. DH worked his way through a two-year degree, and his lack of a bachelor's degree didn't hamper his professional path (not sure if that's possible any longer). We didn't make $150K, but we made a total HHI of the 1993 equivalent ($71,000 combined) by running our own company. DH worked 4 jobs at one point until our business was established.

Remained thin, yes - healthy, there's the kicker. I'm in remission from cancer, but other than that, everything is shiny. (Okay, I get that cancer isn't great, but my hair grew back and I don't mind living flat.) We love our hobbies and spending time together with our adult kids & family pets. It sounds cliche, but my DH is my best friend, and so I look forward to adventures with him.
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