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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Is he open to couples’ therapy?[/quote]

I asked. He said “if you’re going to be like this then you’re the one that needs therapy”.[/quote]

Wow, he sounds psychotic, mean and nasty. [/quote]

I appreciate that. I think he is mean and nasty, but he’s always telling me that I’m the problem and an awful, critical person who’s hellbent on making him feel bad. I’m not perfect and he doesn’t treat anyone else this way. I swing between confidence that he’s an emotionally abusive jerk and the feeling that I brought this on myself and an opposite feeling: that I deserve it and if I could just be quiet and not acknowledge his mistakes I wouldn’t be in this mess.

Messed up, I know.[/quote]

This is why you need to be in therapy.

Without knowing more about your OP (I assume this is OP), did you go too far by asking him to call your friends saying you’d be late? Could you have just been late? (I am never late and can’t stand it when people are but some events don’t have a hard start time so asking someone to say this for a backyard BBQ, for example, feels over the top). Could you have just texted? I don’t think anyone likes messing up and being called out on it, and it sounds like your issues run way deeper than this incident and to be clear I am not blaming you in any way, but I think therapy would help you figure out how you can try to move forward and how not to beat yourself up over things that aren’t your fault. That’s why I brought up the calling thing - maybe learning to recognize if you are being critical would be helpful. Again, not blaming you, he sounds in the wrong, but I know sometimes I say the wrong thing or say things the wrong way and knowing that I did is helpful because then I can apologize. [/quote]

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