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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here again. I just talked to him. It did not go well. [b]He is extremely angry and blaming my anxiety, telling me I am not thinking rationally[/b]. I requested we put the move on hold and go to a therapist to discuss the issues and how we are both feeling, so we can get on the same page, and he flat out refuses. Keeps saying we have to move NOW because the housing market is about to crash and we have to get the equity from our house. Very very mad at me because he has been working so hard on every aspect of the move preparation. At the same time telling me he is afraid I will leave him over this. I feel completely backed into a corner here. [/quote]

Regarding the bold -- do NOT let him talk you into believing this yourself. This is, I think, a kind of gaslighting -- he's telling you that what you want is not "real" and you're mentally not "right" etc. Don't believe it. Listen to the PPs above about getting ducks in a row to leave. The way he's doubling down on pressure so hard ("we have to move NOW because the housing market" blah blah) is a bad sign. Do not let his "I put in all this work!!" or "This is too late in the process to change" talk sway you. All this pressure only confirms your feeling that he is wrong, wrong, wrong to pressure you like this. I am afraid you're going to cave in and agree to the sale and the move and will be lost in this relationship.

Do you have someone in your life you can see immediately, who has your back and will unconditionally support you (and not try to push you back to him)? [/quote]
The more he pressures me, the worse I feel about it. He wants what he wants. I can’t cave in to this. [/quote]

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