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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It’s a petty obvious lie and store bought desserts suk and are loaded with sugar. [/quote]

Homemade desserts also can suck and be loaded with sugar. If someone knows they can’t cook, I’ll take the one from the bakery and smile politely when they pass it off as their own.[/quote]

I think culturally supporting lying in any form is an issue of a bigger societal challenge. Normalizing it can be toxic and damaging. Not saying yell at someone, but being a truth teller is what keeps our fabric woven and not frayed.[/quote]

Hard disagree. I can’t imagine deciding I know enough about what another person does or thinks to call them out on what I perceive as a lie, especially if it’s inconsequential. If it can hurt someone, sure. If it’s a deliberate, ill intentioned lie that involves plotting and scheming, maybe then.

Calling out liars doesn’t generally make people stop lying. It often makes them feel the need to lie harder, either to maintain the story or to make future things they say more believable with better lies. Most lies like this seem to be what they think the other person wants to hear or what they think will impress someone. They’re not usually malicious. Shaming people who are already insecure, embarrassed by the truth, in cognitive decline, or have mental illness/personality disorders isn’t usually helpful, especially if it’s public shaming. If you must point out their flaws, I hope you do it privately. [/quote]

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