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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]People have tried to help you, more than you realize, in more ways than you will ever realize. But guess what? People in middle school, high school, college, neighborhood, at work, etc., ARE NOT EQUIPPED to help you.

We help you the ways we know how: changing the subject, being as patient as possible, trying to engage with your chosen topic a little bit but then trying again to change the subject, etc. Everyday people are not therapists or counselors, so they are not aware of how to help you. They are socially conditioned NOT to be blunt. The social conditioning NOT to be blunt is reinforced time and again. They are doing the best they can.

Your expectations of laypeople are off-base and unfair.[/quote]

This is really important. My child is in a therapist-led social skills group because I want him to recognize the socially awkward and offputting behaviors he engages in. I would NOT want someone outside a therapeutic setting to take this on (outside perhaps some family and close friends) because doing so poorly, even if well intentioned, is likely to make my child feel badly about himself and diminish his self confidence.[/quote]

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