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[quote=Anonymous]She is your mother and she is concerned.  Just as your child is your primary concern and you devote time to care for your child, your mother still feels that devotion to you.  It's sweet, but, yes, it is aggravating when you are an adult, you are responsible for yourself (and your child) and you don't have the time to handle her concerns.

So, explain to her that you appreciate her concern, but between caring for yourself and caring for your child (her grandchild), and working, you don't have the time for extensive updates to her on a daily basis.  Explain that you are not hiding anything and are not being secretive, but that you don't have the time to provide her the detail that she wants on a daily basis.

What worked for us is that we now have a family Zoom once per week (my siblings and my mother) and we all provide updates at that time.  It helps that we share that information at once, so we don't have to give the same information to each of us and repeat or have to rebroadcast the same info.  Plus it allows us to check up on Mom together.

Suggest to your mother that you set up a regularly weekly call/Zoom at a given time and that you will provide her details and answer her questions each week in that call.  Explain that this should answer her need for details, without interrupting your day when you have so many daily activities to take care of.[/quote]

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