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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]Divorce is often financially ruinous for everyone involved, but especially women, many of whom have made the same choices as you and are subsequently swimming hard up the same stream. [/b]

How I dealt with it was that I accepted that I would accrue some debt in order to stabilize my life. I don't think you will even have to do that, because you have a lot in savings. Maybe not longterm, but with that $100k, you can wait out the rest of your lease making ends meet as best you can and then move somewhere with better options. Once I accepted the reality that divorce is expensive AND that I was deciding that the expense was worth it for me, it was easier to not cringe every time a bill from the lawyer came or whatever.

It sounds like you're reeling because you had been operating collaboratively and he basically trashed that plan. But "state ordered support" is probably a lot more than you think. Maybe have your lawyer reassess the situation to get a better deal for you in the non-collaborative situation you are now in.[/quote]

Off topic but this is why I never understood the concept of "household net worth."  When you're in a marriage, you only ever truly own half of the so-called joint assets.  If married people divided their household net worth in two, they would better understand their true financial situation and not be as blindsided by divorce.[/quote]

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