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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op here - I’m really not trying to be a jerk. I am being judgmental, that’s true. and I didn’t give any information about me. I just honestly have had a hard time figuring out how to deal with her oddities when they impact me - during visits, money asking, judging me, kids.  Not in the abstract. I was just thinking I may have more empathy if I understand her better. [/quote]

Her being fat and wanting to look young have zero impact on you. Her being specific about her own diet is none of your business. You are just being catty and mean. [/quote]

She makes it all of our business by endlessly talking about it, making sure we work around it, have her food ready when she comes, only has that food when we visit, etc. She is also making it my business by spending a fortune on it and then asking for $. Trust me, I want zero to do with it. [/quote]

OK let's break down what you actually said:

cares about her looks- not your problem, not even A problem
"is chubby"- not your problem, not even A problem
spends her money on beauty stuff- not your problem, not even A problem
spends her time thinking about her health- not your problem, not even A problem
talks about her and other people's health- not a problem, not even your problem (unless she is talking about your health, which is not what you said)
codependent with husband- not a problem
rarely leaves her house- not a problem (but also odd given all the other references you made to her being out of the house)
is anxious/competitive/boastful- the last two can impact you, but you gave no indication that they do
wants free stuff- not your problem

Only after your first post- which should have been about the actual issue-- did you start mentioning her asking for money and making food demands in your home.  If that was a real issue, you would have included it.  You're grasping.[/quote]

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