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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How old is your child?
We were able to manage without medication until middle school.
I guess the answer is, you can manage without medication until you can't anymore.  You will know when the time comes.[/quote]

This was our experience too. Was able to manage without medication for a long time, but when middle school came, the work demands increased, the willingness of teachers to tolerate his talking/fidgeting/wandering/etc decreased and he was getting in trouble every day/getting C/D's on assignments, missing assignments, etc - he was frustrated with himself and his self esteem plummeted. DH finally agreed it was time to try meds. He started meds and we stopped getting daily notes home re: his behavior, his grades increased to A/B, and his self esteem improved dramatically. This was 7y ago and he is now a senior taking AP/IB/DE classes with all A/B's, multiple sports, and a job. When his meds wear off at night I was see what he would be like unmedicated and I am 100000% he wouldn't have been able to manage as well as he does now.

You'll know.[/quote]

Thank you! This is reassuring. I'm seeing the self-esteem stuff starting to creep in even now. She gets so frustrated when she forgets things or doesn't follow through and says things that break my heart. It's also so so hard for us to find the balance between total helicopter and completely dropping the rope on some things. I think my husband and I need some help with that. [/quote]

I think it's time for you to consider meds then, the self esteem part is a compelling reason. [/quote]

We held off on meds until 8/9 grace. In retrospect, it was a huge mistake, and we should have started medicating in 3rd.  Not medicating earlier damaged my DC’s self-esteem, and although he is happier now, I think that shadow of early self-doubt and feeling like he is stupid will really shadow him forever.  Not medicating also made it much much harder to make friendships, acquire social skills and it definitely negatively impacted his academics which created additional ripple effects in each higher grade.

I truly regret not allowing him to try medication much earlier. [/quote]

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