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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As a husband, this guy sounds burned out and depressed.  I think couples counseling is generally over recommended - but he could seek therapy.  For me, the telling thing is how much he’s shifted his behavior.  He also needs to get more sleep and work on physical fitness.

Even without kids, sitting on the couch for 10 hours straight, eating cereal and snacks after bedtime, etc etc isn’t normal behavior.

Burnout from the last few years is totally understandable - but he needs to snap out of it.[/quote]
Per OP, he's "killing it" at work. That doesn't sound like burnout to me.

[b]That just sounds like he only wants to do things he cares about[/b].  He knows that OP will not let the kid ball drop; she cares too much, and he knows it.

He's a selfish a hole that is basically taking advantage of the fact that he knows OP will do everything. He talks the big talk because he feels like he's "the man", but he feels that childcare and household issues are beneath him.

FWIW, my DH is not like this at all, thank god. Otherwise we'd have a "come to Jesus" talk.[/quote]

Op here, it's this. To the PP that says he needs to work on physical fitness, he runs 5+ miles nearly everyday (yes, while vaping like crazy and smoking for a decade prior to that... no clue how). I don't see how he could be burned out. [b]I'm [/b] burned out, but I do a whole hell of a lot more than him. He WFH in a quiet empty house all day, wakes up at like 7:30am, gets the house to himself most evenings, works out over his lunch break, doesn't cook/clean/grocery shop. I commute 30 minutes to/from an office every day (not to mention, have to do hair/makeup every day), get up at 5am, am almost never in my house alone (and definitely not for extended times) and do all cooking/grocery shopping and any maintenance cleaning between cleaning people coming. I mean, he even complains about the cleaning people I hired. It's annoying to him that they come when he's there ... but he never leaves!! I told him to feel free to hire someone else that would work around him not being there, even gave him some people to reach out to... nothing. [/quote]

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